Monday, January 25, 2010


So today we did our weekly balloon send off. Some people think I am nuts for sending off three balloons every Monday. Once a week we send off three balloons to heaven. I write whatever i want on my balloon. I tell her about what happened the week that passed or I just pour my heart out to her. I thought about if it was a stupid thing, and I don't think it is. This is my own personal way of expressing my love to her because there is no other way to do so. It has become a tradition for the past 5 months for my family. Lillian enjoys giving her sissy balloons as well. I'm not sure why I even bothered to make a post about why I send up three balloons every Monday, but we have been doing it since her birthday and I don't think we are ever going to stop. So those who have an opinion about what I do to mourn my daughters passing and how I cope. I have two words for you....SUCK IT! If you were in my situation and you found a way to get rid of that agony and pain, even if it was for a brief moment, you would do and say the same thing.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

looking for her

Every night when I close my eyes I think of Amelia. When I open them as well she is on my mind but, I often wonder why cant I dream of her? Why cant I see her in my dream like I did three weeks after she passed. I just want to see her, I want to touch her, I want to feel her around me. That is the only thing I do feel often is her presence. Sometimes when i am in the kitchen cooking and I can feel like someone is staring at me but when I turn around there is nobody. Not a person, a dog, or a mouse, nothing!. Sometimes its not even a staring feeling it is just this warm comforting feeling like someone is there, like my baby is there but I turn around and shes not. Sometimes at night I try to close my eyes real tight and think of her, hoping she will appear. She never does. Someone once told me that she is all around always in my presence and if I dint try so hard she would appear. I think that is bullshit because no matter how hard or how less I try to see her I don't. Sometimes I even sit on the couch and look all around the house hoping that her faded image would appear for a brief moment to relieve me of this fucking agony.

Monday, January 18, 2010

Monday, January 4, 2010

Anoher day Janurary 4, 2010

Lillian is finally better, thank goodness! my poor baby was really sick for a little while. Im thinking of making her chicken noodle soup for dinner since she is still a bit stuffy. I cook and clean a alot but i have to. Not because no body else will or because im stubborn but because it keeps my mind off of things. I found that if i do something constantly i wont think about the situation as much. I break down a lot ecspecially now more then ever. I break down in the shower often or at night when I lay Lillian down for bed. I wish i could wipe away thise emotions and deal with the pain. i think i could do that. Im strong or so im told. Who knows what i am but i do know one thing and thats all that matters. I love my daughters so very much and i miss Amelia terribly. good night blog world.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

January 2, 2010

It really feels weird to write 2010. My day was pretty nice. It was Lou's moms birthday so we treated her to dinner at Emeril's burger joint. She has been wanting to go there for a few weeks and try it out. We got a sitter and went for a few hours. I am ok with going to the casino to eat but i don't like gambling. We got there and we had a hour wait so we decided to walk around for a bit. Lou's mom had a few bucks to gamble so we watched her on a machine. I decided i wanted to walk and check out the store they had. They had a new Emeril's cook book. For those of you who don't know, i am a Emeril fan, Rachel Ray fan, Paula Deen fan, ok i am all about the cooking. I love food network. I actually fall asleep to it on the TV every night. Food network has made me a good cook. I enjoy watching people enjoy my food. Its a high for me. Anyway, i was thinking about getting the book but i didn't. It was too expensive for me. After that it was time to go eat and boy was it good. Their fries are amazing! we got home, Lou took Angie home and i put Lil to bed. It was a nice night.

Friday, January 1, 2010

New Years Eve/New Years Day

So today is New Years Eve. I'm not excited about that at all. I used to get totally stoked and i would go and get a new outfit, go out or go to family's houses and party my ass off. This year I'm not in the mood this year. Lillian is sick, she has a double ear infection and a bad cough. We cant get a sitter and honestly since Lillian is sick i would rather be home with her. Since Amelia passed i have been a bit over protective of her. We spent our night ordering the new dominos pizza which i do not eat. Yuck, i cant stand fake pizza. haha. I sat on the recliner with Lillian and her blanket and snuggled. We decided to have her sleep downstairs with us since she was so sick. I think i fell asleep right before the ball dropped but then to ring in the new year, Lillian threw up right at 12:01. She had so much mucus that it made her gag and then it all came up. Nice way to ring in the new year huh? haha. After all the commotion at midnight, i had a moment to myself. I don't want this year to be over, not because it was a great year, it was a horrible year. I don't want this year over because when i speak about Amelia i will have to say she passed away last year and i don't like that. Not only that but now January is a month closer to April and we all know that April is not going to be a good month for me. thinking about it now i am getting sick to my stomach. Happy New Year Everyone. I hope this new year brings you joy and happiness in every which way.

New years Day

We really didn't do much since Lillian was still sick. She has been on augmentin for a few days now and it still hasn't really kicked in. We went to my moms for some lasagna and ham today. it was nice to see my siblings. I miss hanging with them. We had fun though. Lou got some bad news today that his Uncle Robin is starting to lose his battle with liver cancer. He has been struggling with this monster for years and it really is starting to take a toll on him. Ive said so many prayers for him, i ask Amelia to watch over him and help him fight this struggle but its not looking too good. I'm going to head off to bed, its been a rough day.